Juliette
Our niece Juliette was born on August 16, one day late. waow!
I'm Auntie Elo, or more precisely Tata Elo, as we say here in France!
She's really cute, more than I expected in fact!
Not that I thought she would be ugly, of course not, but you know, new born babies aren't always really pretty... But my sister in law had to have a caesarean, and little Juliette looked absolutely beautiful, even just a few minutes after she was born!
Anyway, now she's here, we're aunties and I hope we'll be able to play our role and have a real relationship with our niece...
Her father is a nice guy, but unfortunaly he doesn't seem to be very fond of our side of the family.
A few days ago, when we went to the hospital to see little Juliette, we felt that he had suddenly changed, he seemed more friendly, he invited us to his home for dinner, for the first time in 6 years we felt there was real communication between us.
It was about time! But hey, better late than never, we're not going to criticize his efforts!
However, last night I visited the website he created for his baby, and I was kinda shocked to see that there were several pictures of Juliette with his parents, Juliette with his sister... but not even one of Juliette with her other grandparents, none of her 3 other aunties either...
Same thing for the baby's blog : "today grandpa and grandma came to see me", "today I took a nap on my auntie's shoulder" etc... all referring to our brother-in-law's parents and sister, no mention whatsoever of his wife's parents and sisters!
As if none of us had come to see the baby! As if none of us existed, actually.
my mother-in-law spent more than a week at his place, doing the housework, cooking him dinner, taking care of his oh-so-wonderful dog, and went to the hospital everyday to spend time with her daughter and granddaughter, and there isn't a word about her, not even a photo...
I probably shouldn't focus so much on "details", but it hurts.
Let's pretend that it's just a misunderstanding. Let's pretend he just "forgot" to talk about our side of the family, but that he meant to, of course. Let's pretend he gives a damn about us.
I'm mad at him, because although none of them will say a word about it, I know it hurts my parents in law, and their daughters.
I sure hope that as soon as my sister in law is back from the hospital, this will change.
I'm Auntie Elo, or more precisely Tata Elo, as we say here in France!
She's really cute, more than I expected in fact!
Not that I thought she would be ugly, of course not, but you know, new born babies aren't always really pretty... But my sister in law had to have a caesarean, and little Juliette looked absolutely beautiful, even just a few minutes after she was born!
Anyway, now she's here, we're aunties and I hope we'll be able to play our role and have a real relationship with our niece...
Her father is a nice guy, but unfortunaly he doesn't seem to be very fond of our side of the family.
A few days ago, when we went to the hospital to see little Juliette, we felt that he had suddenly changed, he seemed more friendly, he invited us to his home for dinner, for the first time in 6 years we felt there was real communication between us.
It was about time! But hey, better late than never, we're not going to criticize his efforts!
However, last night I visited the website he created for his baby, and I was kinda shocked to see that there were several pictures of Juliette with his parents, Juliette with his sister... but not even one of Juliette with her other grandparents, none of her 3 other aunties either...
Same thing for the baby's blog : "today grandpa and grandma came to see me", "today I took a nap on my auntie's shoulder" etc... all referring to our brother-in-law's parents and sister, no mention whatsoever of his wife's parents and sisters!
As if none of us had come to see the baby! As if none of us existed, actually.
my mother-in-law spent more than a week at his place, doing the housework, cooking him dinner, taking care of his oh-so-wonderful dog, and went to the hospital everyday to spend time with her daughter and granddaughter, and there isn't a word about her, not even a photo...
I probably shouldn't focus so much on "details", but it hurts.
Let's pretend that it's just a misunderstanding. Let's pretend he just "forgot" to talk about our side of the family, but that he meant to, of course. Let's pretend he gives a damn about us.
I'm mad at him, because although none of them will say a word about it, I know it hurts my parents in law, and their daughters.
I sure hope that as soon as my sister in law is back from the hospital, this will change.
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